Sometimes life makes the decisions for you that you know you needed, but could not get the nerve up to do. Life has gotten seriously busy around my world, with the new book for ROTH, the magazine launch, and all the wonderful activities that my boys are involved in as the weather turns from Winter to Spring.

We had decided to take a vacation from Colorado to California a few months back, and I had diligently set up my blog posts for the week that I was gone. I was going to make my big blog come back, finally get back into the swing of things and get this space rolling again.

We traveled to Moab, Flagstaff, and ended in the California desert. Just as we were getting out of the car, my computer bag fell out and shattered my computer. It was a big mistake, and one I had packed to avoid, but a last minute decision by my sweet husband sent the bag flying out.

Oh goodness, I was seething. All that hard work gone to waste, as I would have to wait for a replacement system. Whatever would I do?

I would take a vacation.

I unplugged, literally. I put the phone down, set the broken computer on the table and simply enjoyed the past 5 days with my family. That was a much bigger task than I thought that it would be, as I felt as though I had to overcome feelings of being behind, of being unavailable and perhaps even a bit irresponsible. However, it was a great lesson for me that there are moments that we need to remove ourselves from the world, and if we choose not to, the universe will find it’s own way.

I talk a lot about self-care in this space, but I am always in a state of having to practice to get there. I love a good life lesson, and this was no exception. The blog will always be there, I am way more important in my own head than I actually ever am in reality, and the world will not fall apart if I step away. Sometimes it is hard to admit those things, but that is the way it is, and it is always good to completely remove myself from the crazy world of technology now and then.

So I will return on Monday, those posts will go up a week late, and we will see where we go from there. For now, I wish you all a long weekend of savoring the moment you are in, and perhaps taking a few moments just for yourselves.

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I have been thinking lately on all the things I wish I had known 10 years ago. In my late 20′s there were so many things that I thought that I knew, I thought I had mastered, and so many aspects to life I thought would be different then how they turned out.

I sat down and journaled over the weekend about a few things I would tell myself a decade ago if I could.

As much as I hate to admit it, almost everything your mother ever said turned out to be true, including wearing clean underwear in case you are ever in an accident.

You will love your child so intensely that it will hurt, but you will still manage to screw him up at least once a day.

Having tons of friends seems wonderful, but it will be that close knit group of friends that you create that will help you through the toughest of moments. Choose them wisely.

You will feel like it is always easy to get into shape. It isn’t.

You actually do end up marrying your dad. Not really sure how this happens, especially when your dad tells you that you married the exact opposite of him, but some how it just ends up this way.

Being a strong and outspoken woman is so much more important than being liked by everyone. There will come a time when you have to speak up, when you have no choice, and you need to know how.

You will not be the girl in ten years that you are today. There is no possible way, and you wouldn’t want to be. The beauty of age is honestly the wisdom. You have little of it right now, but it will come. Once it does, so many of the things that you thought were important will seem trivial.

Marriage is the hardest thing that you will ever, ever do. If you marry the right person, you will want to leave at least once a week, but you will only get to the end of the driveway before you change your mind.

Find something that brings you peace; yoga, church, hiking, climbing. It has to be yours and it has to be real.

When you have kids, you will be surprised by the words that come out of your mouth. “Don’t pee on the dog”, “your brother is not a toy”, and “yes sir you do have to eat your vegetables” to name a few.

You will one day wake up and realize you are no longer in your 20′s, your life is tied down, you have not slept in 8 years, your bed is full of kids, and you can not remember the last time you showered. If you did it right, if you lived and loved for the right reasons, you won’t care one little bit.

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